Intimacy & Energy – Free Yourself

When I first started learning about energy, I found out that we have these integrative magnetic fields surrounding all living beings. This includes plants and trees and of course animals. This field of energy is most commonly known as the aura.

I had already been learning everything I could about massage and body work from any books on the topic I could get my hands on. We didn’t yet have a home computer so there was no Yahoo search or Google or the unending information that we now have at our finger tips. Every book I got I absorbed as deeply as I could before finding another. Every time I got to go to the nearest city I would spend hours in bookshops trying to find the next book (s) that would feed me more information about how the body works, heals, and this new to me concept of energy.

I was fascinated. I tried out new techniques on my mum and my friends. I learned how to massage the shoulders, head and neck to ease tension. I learned what it felt like in my hands when there was tension present. I learned how to feel energy and how I really had to concentrate but not try too hard and dim down my other senses to distractions.

I learned that these are skills that anybody can learn and that we are all, already adept and just have to learn to classify what it is that we are feeling. To tune out other distractions so we can improve this sense, just like learning to differentiate and name colours in preschool.

The first energy balance I taught myself how to do was balancing the chakras. I found the heart chakra and tuned into its energy, feeling its movement with my hands about 2 feet off the body. It would swirl clockwise pulling my hand into the flow of energy. I would then use my other hand to find the root chakra above the pelvic bone and tune into its energy which moves much slower than the heart. If the energy felt off, like a plate spinning atop a stick off kilter I would use my hands to gently pull it back into balance. Sometimes I would have to reverse the flow to ‘clear out the gear’ and then bring it back to its correct flow. By doing this I was helping the body to restore balance and it would stimulate the body’s own abilities to restore proper flow of energy throughout the body and aura.

I found my mission, my life’s calling. And I am extremely lucky that I discovered it before I was even 18. By learning to tune into this inner knowledge through tuning into the body’s energy system I was able to follow my life’s plan. I didn’t always listen and I still stubbornly ignore that better judgment within myself occasionally but this early learning of calming my mind and tuning into my body has been instrumental in my happiness and life direction.

You can do this through meditation practise or, like I did, through feeling energy. All it takes is practise and persistence even if you don’t always feel like you are doing it right.

Let me know if you try and how you get on with it.


I’d love to share with you some of my favourite Fairy Essences for love. It doesn’t matter if you are currently in a relationship or still searching for that wonderful partner to share your life with, these essences may be just what you need to bring more love into your life.

As I have just written a post all about clearing your energy from baggage exchanged with others through intimate connections, let’s begin with Sacred Site. Sacred Site is all about you seeing your divine light and shining it for the world to see. We can all have periods of not seeing our own worth and true value. Sacred Site helps us to offload old baggage we have been carrying for far too long and allow us to believe in our own beauty, worth and lovability. Each one of you reading this is a spark of pure brilliance, and you deserve love because you are wonderful. Even if you doubt it, I don’t. Give it a try, chance it for a week. See how it feels to start believing in your own magnificence, put to bed all those other negative self-belief thoughts for just one week. Magic will start happening.


The next Essence I’d like to discuss with you in regards to love may not be one you would likely suspect. I’m talking about Spine. Spine Fairy Essence is all about support. When you are in search of that special someone to share your life with or even if you are in a relationship, you may not feel you have enough emotional back up in your life. Things can be overwhelming. You need something strong to lean against, a structure to help you keep fighting, keep searching, keep up with the fast pace of your life. Sometimes we find it difficult to keep going and Spine gives us the support and energy to keep doing what we need to do, the support to keep our faith and belief in ourselves. You are a strong and amazing person and it doesn’t matter how many setbacks you have had in love, it will be worth it.

Soulmate is all about love. Which is what we are all about, we are here to give and receive love. It can take a lot of courage to open ourselves up to another person and let them love us. All of us, even the murky bits, trust me, all of you is loveable. We can use this courage to go out on a limb to share how we feel about someone or be the one to give more in order to allow another open up to love. It’s scary, it’s a process and there is no set way or order for love to happen. Except you must open your heart, because you will never be able to show another your love or receive the love being given to you with a closed heart. This essence helps you to live in your heart and be love.


Much of the world will be focusing on love over the next few weeks. Some will be focusing on lack but allow yourself to focus on abundance. Allow your heart to open and love those around you, it doesn’t have to be romantic. If you are looking for love, the more you open your heart to loving the more you will draw love to you. Like attracts like.

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